He was funny, family-oriented, obviously very smart, etc. We visit when he has a rotation that gives him weekends off, and compromise sleep and fun. I know a non-Mormon guy who married a Mormon woman and has kept her beautiful and desirable, by encouraging her religious involvement, even though he avoided Mormonism himself. I can live on less Our whole family has suffered in the name of patient care. But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness. I think one has to become somewhat vulnerable and broken to truly experience the best side of happy- and he will not, and can not allow that to happen. With such high standards of perfection, Mormon girls want a man who validates their efforts and confidently provides directionвa man who expects them to be beautiful.
I still struggle with the silence in contact or wanting to "rescue" him from the harried schedule. What do you think is a reasonable expectation for how much time you will spend together, how often you will talk, etc. Accept yourself, and feel God accepting you, and everything else will follow. If you go yourself, you'll see - those people are good people. I say, Follow your heart.